Angy Fernández (34 years old) is a woman of extremesas she herself says. He might as well want to be in London, his favorite city in the world, or on any island in Thailand, “where everyone smiles and offers you anything.” without asking for anything in return“.
Now he is in a calm moment, stable at work and with a salary thanks to the theater, “something that actors can’t always say.” However, he also feels nervous: He has just published his first book titled nice messand he is looking forward to his followers welcome him with open arms: “I have to breathe, take it easy, not be afraid, speak from who I am and not judge myself,” she tells herself.
He nice mess by Angy
The book was born last year, in 2023, and it did so thanks to a phone call: “The publishing house He suggested I write it and we had a first meeting, but to me I was very scared“says Angy. She felt that she was not prepared to write about her life. “I have lived through a hurricane, like everyone, because every life is a hurricanebut what was I going to write?”, I thought at that time.
The truth is that Angy had a lot to write, simply the time had to come: “When I finished a musical in Malaga and returned to Madrid without having any work, I thought I could start doing it and, if I liked it, I would call them if they were still interested.“.
And so it was, and the book began to mature. He began writing it at home, telling how he felt: “It’s like a diary turned into biographywith good and bad moments.” Also with the mental disorder of some days, and the internal peace of others. With the story of his childhoodhis first steps on stage, or with the story of his parents. “In short, with all the lights and shadows of these years, in the end that is life.”
Actress Angy Fernández is 34 years old.
One of the most emotional things about the book is seeing the poems that your father wrote before he died, portrayed in his own handwriting. HIs there any verse that you have special affection for?
I have some poetry that he wrote to me when I was born, but I love one that says: “I hope I am able to defeat evil wrapped in a thousand and one disguises, wrapped in illness.” We continue to live that today.
The world is sick, everything that is happening in the world is very complicated and we can’t do much. There has always been evil and people who deceive us, no matter what time you are in. That’s how he thought and that’s how I think. Although I haven’t known him well, we can think alike about many things.
The book is dedicated to your mother. What role has she had in all this?
She has been my savior, everything to me. I have had a strong bond with her. I have also felt a lot of attachment and it has been difficult for me to separate from my mother. When I came to Madrid to live, she came with me. I was younger and he was always by my side. He has had a very bad time when he has seen me bad and, in his life, he has also had a bad time for other things.
Angy is from Mallorca.
Since you were little, even your schoolmates’ mothers knew that you were going to be an artist. Has there ever been a moment when you questioned whether it was really your thing?
There was a moment, when I was twenty years old, that I thought I should have a plan B, because there are actors who open bars or invest in other things. But I don’t see myself in any of that. I don’t think I would know how to do it, although I would love to.
Yes, there are moments of disappointment and it makes you want to quit. For some time I have not been very latent, on television for example, but I continued working in the theater. It was a relief because I was calm doing what I liked and without having the spotlight. It has been good for me to take care of my mental health, have a little peace and more clarity. Now I am in a moment of excitement for having made the book, but also of fear because it is something different and new.
Angy Fernández, talking about her book.
In your book you talk about mental health, a topic that you have tried to make visible for years. Do you think that new generations can provide a new approach?
Before, mental health was not talked about and, if you went to therapy, it was a bad thing. Our parents have not been able to heal because they have not had the tools. Now it’s our turn, but the bad thing about this generation is that we take away what our parents didn’t heal and everything in this world so quickly. It’s like a mixture of both.
Angy Fernández has worked in theater, music and television.
It bothers me that they tell us that we are the glass generation. It shouldn’t be said so lightly. We empathize with our parents, who had a very bad time and did not have a place to open up and be able to heal their things. But it is difficult for everyone to manage themselves and we should not invalidate others.
Now we have so many stimuli that our heads can explode with social networks. It seems like you have to do things all the time and if you’re not on social media, you don’t exist. Or, if I’m not on television, I don’t exist. This pressure we put on ourselves makes me sad. Until I was 13, I had a cell phone that only sent SMS and I am very grateful because now I am hooked on the phone, like many people.
You’ve seen the theater, film, and music industries evolve since you were younger. Do you think it’s going in the right direction?
Today, our country is the third country with the most musicals. Some aren’t around for long because they don’t work, not many people are in the habit of going to see musicals, or because they seem expensive. If they have those prices it is because there are many people working: they sing, they act, they dance…
I think we are moving forward, but there are people who still call us actors subsidized. I wish they could see the actual statistics because they don’t. Most of us are paid from private sources and we receive little help. Many people have us in a place that is not correct, they should read more about how our industry works. Those of us who dedicate ourselves to this are not worse people, nor are we profiteers.
They don’t give us that much help… Damn! It’s a complicated profession! It is very difficult to be given a role, to appear on a movie screen, to become a millionaire with a movie… I am sorry that there is such anger towards those of us who dedicate ourselves to this. And if we claim something, even more so. If Bardem starts talking about Gaza, if we raise our voices, they will lynch us.
Let’s go back to the book. In it you confess that you lost your virginity accidentally. You say that “you felt like a girl who lost something very valuable.” What would you say to the girls who might read your book or to all the women who have gone through the same thing and haven’t told it?
I didn’t want to treat it as if it were abuse, because I was the one who allowed it, although I actually told him several times that I didn’t want to continue and I felt a little obligated. I didn’t want to lose my virginity at that moment.
I would say that we have to know how to set limits. I don’t want to generalize because I have found men who have treated me with respect, but there are men who believe they can do whatever they want with you, and even more so before, when the subject was not talked about as much.
For fear of losing him, I agreed to something I was not prepared for. I would tell them, please, don’t do anything you don’t want to do. That we have the right to say no, and that they have to respect that no. That no is no.
Angy Fernández presented her new book on October 24.
In nice mess You also say that every day you are closer to being the woman you want to be.
Angy’s book, titled Beautiful Disaster.
So, what is that woman you want to become?
I want to live in peace. I want to continue working on what I like, have more or less balanced mental health and be able to help the people around me. Help myself and help others because I don’t just want to think about myself. We have to look a little further and think about the one next to us.
I want to be that woman, who I don’t know if she will have a family, but I want to continue dedicating myself to this. Ah! And also have more self-confidence! And feel more respect towards me!